It's perfectly OK to do things with other people in our minds so long as we are reasonably sure that these are actions that that person would agree to in person. Otherwise, no. It not only sends some unwelcome sex energy to that person, but its attachment to you turns into a drain on your own energy. A phrase I find handy is, " Him or someone like him." I also apply this to fantasizing with pictures of naked men not associated with Leather. If I want to Leather fantasize about them, I try to remember to apply the same phrase.
Why is porn about young hetero men who are only pretending to be gay for pay? Why is Leather porn about people forced into being the bottom - actually forced, not pretend forced? And, of course, why is porn that combines the two of those?
Better to do as Body Electric suggests and take your own pictures of yourself and become your own porn.
This also gets some of that "Madison Ave." type teaching - that you are not sexually attractive if you aren't young, six packed and hung enough to cause a back ache - out of your head.
Hurray for the Bears!!
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